Bringing the science of relationships and intimacy to life
Whether you're a clinician looking to deepen your understanding of affective neuroscience, or an organization supporting people navigating intimacy challenges, Lillian Bailey offers talks that are both clinically grounded and genuinely human.
Lillian Bailey, MS, LMFT, CST
An AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist and relationship therapist in Denver, CO with specialized training in Emotionally-Focused Couple Therapy and treatment of mindbody/neuroplastic symptoms.
Lillian thinks of herself as a collector of wisdom – a beachcomber of sorts, combing the shoreline of clinical research, neuroscience, and lived experience for the pieces that matter most. Each talk is a mosaic: carefully assembled connections across the topics she has explored most deeply, shaped to meet the needs of the audience in front of her.
She is known for bringing warmth, humor, and deep clinical expertise to difficult conversations – and for making people feel less alone in the process.
Lillian speaks on a range of topics and can tailor content for clinical or patient/consumer audiences.
FOR CLINICIANS
The How of Therapeutic Change
The common factors and change processes that cut across experiential modalities, and what actually drives deep transformation in therapy.
A Transtheoretical Lens
Transdiagnostic mechanisms of change, and how understanding these principles can expand clinical creativity and confidence across presenting concerns.
Bridging Into New Clinical Territory
Using existing therapeutic knowledge as a foundation for entering unfamiliar specialties – sex therapy, couple/relationship work, or mind-body and chronic pain/symptom presentations.
Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy
How attachment science shapes the way we understand relational distress, and how to use EFCT flexibly with different presentations including doing EFCT-informed sex therapy, and how to work with couples where one partner is experiencing chronic pain/mindbody symptoms.
Coherence Therapy
Memory reconsolidation-based change, and why getting specific about the emotional knowings beneath symptoms changes everything.
Affective Neuroscience and the Therapy Room
How understanding the neuroscience of emotion – drawing on Panksepp and others – can ground and enrich clinical practice.
FOR GENERAL AUDIENCES
How Relationships Shape Us and Our Brains
The science of co-regulation, attachment, and why our closest relationships aren't just emotionally meaningful, they're protective in the face of life’s threats and challenges.
When the Body Hurts and Intimacy Suffers
How chronic pain and illness reshape desire, connection, and sexual wellbeing — and what actually helps.
What Sex Ed Left Out
From sexual menus to the Wheel of Consent, the gaps most people never got – made accessible.
Pleasure Over Performance
Why reframing performance goals changes everything, drawing on researchers like Peggy Kleinplatz and Emily Nagoski.
Feeding the Erotic Mind
Fantasy, desire, and the creative dimensions of sexuality — and what it looks like to cultivate a richer inner erotic life.
Sexual Scripts and What They Cost Us
How the stories we've absorbed about sex shape what we do, what we want, and what we're able to ask for. How to transform a sexual script.
CUSTOM TOPICS
Have something specific in mind? Lillian works collaboratively to develop talks tailored to your audience and goals. Get in touch.
Lillian has spoken to clinician associations, continuing education programs, patient advocacy organizations, and wellness-focused groups.
She is equally at home with a room full of therapists as she is with people simply trying to understand their own bodies and relationships better.
Formats include keynotes, workshops, webinars, panel discussions, podcasts/interviews, and continuing education training
In the Media
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Lillian accepts a limited number of speaking engagements each year. To inquire about availability, fees, or to discuss a custom talk for your audience, reach out below.